10 Tips for Better Oral Sex

You already drive her wild, but if you’re looking to step up your oral sex game, check out these expert tips I’ve collected from clients, fans and couples from across the globe:

1.     Slow down.

When we’re excited, our minds race and our bodies stumble to keep pace. In the heat of the moment, our caresses often become slovenly gropes and our lustful kisses deteriorate into something from a bad romance novel.

Though the wanton passion may represent your carnal desire, bear in mind that your partner may be moving at a different pace. If she has suggested that she’d like you to slow down or ease up, try touching her with only the backs of your handsfor the first few minutes for a change of pressure and tempo.

2.     Give her a nose job.

Have you ever touched the tip of your nose? It has a unique spring-like texture that offers the perfect balance between firm and flexible. Apply a drop of lube and run your nose down the center of her vulva -- roll it around in large circle around the edges or slide it right inside as you nod your head up and down and back and forth. Breathe deeply and let your natural sounds flow freely to let her know just how much you love it.

3.     Create a delicious suction cup while you roll your tongue.

Open your mouth as wide as you can and press it against her vulva. Suck away as your roll your tongue around the edges of your lips to create your own suction cup. 

4.     Use the palm of your hand.

Forget fingering (for now) and use your entire hand to take her pleasure to new heights. Place a flat hand against her vulva (as though you’re cupping it) and apply pressure as you slide up and down. You’ll need lots of lube for this one!

5.     Pay attention to the Mons Veneris.

Also known as the Venus Mound, the soft patch of skin above the vulva is the key to orgasm for many women, as sucking, stroking and rubbing this region also massages the shaft of her inner clitoris. While you’re going down on her, use three fingers to gently press upward on the bottom section of her Venus Mound while using her hip movements and breath patterns to guide your rhythm. 

6.     Stroke the legs and bulbs of her clitoris.

Her inner clitoris is just as important as the pearl-like head that peers over the top of her vulva -- the legs and bulbs can be stimulated through her labia with the right amount of pressure. Use the tip of your tongue to tease between her lips during the early stages of foreplay and use your lips and cheeks (covered in lube) to increase the pressure.

As she gets closer to orgasm, stroke your tongue from the head of her clitoris right down to the fourchette (where the lips meet at the bottom) while pressing your thumbs firmly into the fleshy parts of her outer lips so that she has a grounded surface against which to grind.

7.     Give her a hummer.

It’s no surprise that vibrators are growing in popularity, so try combining oral sex with her favorite vibe to give her the best of both worlds. You can stretch a flexible vibrating toy around your tongue, hold a small flat toy against her Venus Mound or simply moan deeply while you’re eating her out to create natural vibrations.

8.     Talk with your mouth full.

Forget your manners and talk while you’re down there to let her know just how much you love it. Tell her how good it feels, how hot she looks and just how badly you want to taste her.

9.     Pulse.

During orgasm, she experiences a series of contractions that begin in the pelvic region, but can spread across the body in waves of pleasure. To induce these orgasmic contractions and increase their intensity, press a wide flat surface (for example, your tongue, the palm of your hand or a flat vibrating toy) against the length of her vulva or the head of her clitoris and pulse gently. 

10.  Try a new position.

Most couples engage in oral with the receiving partner on their back. This not only limits their sexual repertoire, but the repetition can render even the hottest techniques boring. Change things up with these suggestions: 

       ●       Flip her onto her stomach. ●       Ask her to get down all fours. ●       Pull her legs off the side of the bed.●       Have her bend one leg up onto the couch while standing. ●       Place her ankles in her hands while she lies on her back. ●       Let her sit on your face and wrap her legs right around you. ●       Lie on your sides facing one another. ●       Lift her onto the kitchen counter and pull up a chair.

You don’t need a special occasion to bring some new techniques into the bedroom. After all, why not try a few of these tips on your next encounter with your special someone? Not sure where to start? Don’t be afraid to ask your partner what sounds best to them -- after all, sometimes talking about sex is all the foreplay you’ll need. Of course, if you’re planning on trying anything new in the bedroom, make sure you’ve got your lube ready.