15 Soulmate Signs: How to Know When You've Met the One
When you’re young, it’s easy to believe that life will be like a Disney movie: you’ll meet your soulmate, fall in love at first sight, and -- after 40 or so minutes of mild conflict and maybe a few talking animals -- you’ll live happily ever after. Yet many of us find ourselves giving up hope when our “happily ever after” doesn’t appear on schedule. And in a dating world where Tinder is king, finding a true soulmate can start to feel like nothing more than a fairy tale.
Yet, even in your most cynical moments, you look around and you can see beyond a shadow of a doubt that there are people you know who have met theirs. They’re hard to miss -- the couples who aren’t just happy together, but who seem truly meant for each other. And when you start to ask around about soulmates, not quite sure if you believe it yourself, you’ll find lots of people ready to tell you their story. “Yes,” they’ll say, “I know he’s the one. I’ve known since the moment I laid eyes on him.” And you will believe it.
So for all of the romantics out there who are still waiting for their soulmate to come along, we put together this list of soulmate signs compiled from the lucky people who’ve been there.
1. You Just Know
As crazy as it may sound to those who
haven’t experienced it, the one thing that soulmates always say is that
when they found “the one”, they just knew. Call it “love at first sight”
or just a moment of intuition, but when soulmates find each other they
know that they’ve met their other half. There is often a sense of calm
and certainty about their relationship from the very beginning. Even
before they say it out loud, soulmates know that this relationship is
going to go the distance.
2. You’re Both Ready
And if you aren’t ready, you get ready.
Once soulmates know that they have met “the one” there isn’t any
pussyfooting around. Even if they find each other at a time that isn’t
convenient or when one or both of them wasn’t really looking, once
soulmates have found their other half, they figure out how to move
forward with their relationship, no matter the obstacle. For many, one
of the most surefire soulmate signs is a couple’s desire to commit to
each other early and their steadfast ability to follow through on that
commitment. When soulmates decide to be together, there is nothing that
can stand in their way.
3. You’re Best Friends
One of the best things about meeting your
soulmate is that you are also meeting your best friend. While any other
friendships you may have before they meet will always be important to
them, the connection between soul mates allows them to be the best
friend that either of them has ever had. Soulmates just “get” each
other. They can understand each other on a very deep level, even if
they’ve only know each other for a very short time. If you find someone
who very quickly becomes your number one support, your partner-in-crime,
and the first person you text when you have good or bad news, there’s a
good chance that you’ve met your soulmate.
4. You Respect Each Other
Soulmates don’t just love to be around
each other -- they have a deep respect for each other as well. Soulmates
accept each other, flaws and all, but when they step back to look at
the total package, they see a partner that they are very proud to call
their own. Because soulmates respect each other so profoundly, they
handle their conflicts differently than many other couples. Soulmates
don’t want to change each other, so they tend to be less critical of
each other, even when they disagree. A true soulmate won’t want to turn
you into something that you are not, but instead will want to be the
best partner possible to support the person that you are.
5. You Understand Each Other’s Emotional Language
Everyone deals with emotions - from love
to anger to sadness to joy - in very different ways. For instance, some
people might express their love for a partner by giving them a back rub,
while other people might express love by doing the dishes. The same is
true of anger -- some people withdraw in the face of conflict, while
other people want to talk things out immediately.
Soulmates might not deal with their
emotions in the same way, but they understand their differences and
learn to meet their partner in the middle. Many couples will find that
when they fight it devolves into a situation where both partners feel
angry and misunderstood, but soulmates develop an emotional shorthand
that allows both partners to be heard and get what they need.
6. You’re On the Same Page When it Counts
Soulmates don’t have to agree on
everything. In fact, you and your soulmate can have some serious
differences of opinion. However, when it comes to the most important
things in life like your values, goals, core beliefs, and priorities,
you are totally on the same page. Soulmates tend to see the world
through the same lens which makes their connection so much deeper
because they understand one another. When you’re looking for soulmate
signs, ask yourself whether your partner generally sees the world the
way you do. When you’ve found your soulmate, the answer will be “yes.”
7. You Have a Shared Vision of the Future
When it comes to soulmate signs, this one
is huge. Even if you can check off all of the other soulmate signs, if
you and your partner don’t have a shared vision of the future you may
not be destined to be together. You’ve probably heard the old adage, “A
bird may love a fish, but where would they live?” Well, whoever coined
that phrase definitely knew a thing or two about soulmates. If you dream
of a glamorous life in a big city, but your partner longs for a quiet,
family life in a small town, you’ll have a very hard time making your
relationship work in the long term. To share a life that you both love,
you first have to agree on what that life will look like. When you find
your soulmate, you will both agree on the kind of life that you want to
build together and you won’t be able to wait to get started.
8. You’re Each Other’s Biggest Fan
When you’ve found your soulmate, you will
likely find yourself feeling a little amazed that someone so awesome
could exist. This doesn’t mean that soulmates don’t see each other’s
flaws, but the deep respect, friendship, and emotional connection they
share allows soulmates to see each other in the best possible light.
That’s why one of the surest soulmate signs is feeling like you always
have someone in your corner. Soulmates celebrate each other’s successes
and help each other rally when the going gets tough. No matter what,
soulmates are always rooting for each other and are proud to support
their partner in everything they do.
9. You Challenge Each Other
Because they both see the best in their
partner, soulmates are able to bring out the best in each other --
though it won’t always be easy. Your soulmate won’t be content to watch
you rest on your laurels. They will see how amazing you are and know all
of the awesome things that you’re capable of doing, making it difficult
for them to sit by and let you not be your best self. Of all the
soulmate signs, this can be the most uncomfortable and soulmates can
definitely find themselves butting heads.
However, in challenging each other they
will each become better versions of themselves than they would have
become apart. Down the road, when true soulmates look back at the life
they’ve built together they will be struck by how much they’ve
accomplished together and will be grateful to have had their partner
there to push them.
10. You’re Comfortable Being Your Most Authentic Selves Together
Many soulmates will say that the earliest
soulmate signs they noticed in their relationship was how comfortable
they felt around each other. Even in the emotional whirlwind of falling
in love, soulmates will find that they’ve never felt more secure in
opening up to someone and showing their true self.
Soulmates delight in each other’s little
quirks and idiosyncrasies and feel great empathy for each other’s flaws
and vulnerability. This makes it easy to open up to one another because
they both feel safe and secure in the knowledge that they are loved. For
true soulmates, the deepest levels of emotional intimacy come more
easily than either partner may have believed possible and this
connection draws them to each other from the very beginning.
11. The Sex is Amazing
Because they have such a deep connection,
sex between soulmates is destined to be unlike anything that either of
them has ever experienced. Soulmates’ profound love for each other
combined with their ability to be honest and vulnerable with each other
creates a level of sexual chemistry that is off the charts. While lots
of couples have great and fulfilling sex lives, the intensity between
soulmates takes it to another level entirely.
It’s a hard thing to describe if you
haven’t experienced, but a good rule of thumb is that if you don’t know
whether or not the person you are having sex with is your soulmate, they
probably aren’t. This is (obviously) one of our favorite soulmate signs
and we think this one is worth holding out for. While you’re waiting,
get prepared by stocking up on some killer lube, because when you find “the one” you’re going to want to be able to go all night. (We can even hook you up with a free sample.)
12. You Both Fight for the Relationship
As Shakespeare wrote in A Midsummer
Night’s Dream, “The course of true love never did run smooth,” and the
relationship between soulmates is no exception. No matter how deep your
connection, soulmates will inevitably run into bumps in the road.
Whether it be difficulties with family
members, illness, financial troubles or any other of the host of
problems people encounter in their lives, at some point even soulmates
will run up against a problem that rattles their foundation. One of the
surest soulmate signs is how you and your partner deal with those
problems when they arise. True soulmates will meet any challenge to
their relationship head on and will fight together until balance is
restored.
13. You Take Turns Being Strong
Another reality of life is that soulmates
will both experience stress, heartbreak, and loss, both together and
separately during the course of their lives together. One of the most
reliable soulmate signs is that soulmates will stand together when the
going gets tough. When one partner is going through a hard time, the
other will rally to support them. When soulmates are going through a
hard time together, they will takes turns being strong until they
weather the storm. The deep commitment that soulmates makes their
relationship a rock for each of them to rely on no matter what
challenges they face.
14. You’re Secure Enough to Be Apart…
When soulmates find each other, the
result is a relationship that is rock solid. The deep connection between
soulmates allows them to feel secure in their relationship, even when
they aren’t together. One of the key soulmate signs is that, no matter
what, soulmates know that they will always come back to each other and
pick up right where they left off.
This allows soulmates to take time apart
from each other without panicking about their relationship or letting
jealousy make them question their connection. Whether it’s going out
separately with friends, traveling for work, or having to spend some
time living long distance, soulmates are able to let each other do
what’s best for their individual lives, knowing that any distance
between them can only be temporary.
15. ...But Nothing is Better Than Being Together
Soulmates might be able to take time
apart, but when you find “the one” there is absolutely nothing better
than being together. When you find your best friend, your biggest
cheerleader, you main support, your loyal teammate, and your greatest
lover all in one person, it’s easy to imagine why soulmates value their
time together above all other things.